FAMILY CONFLICT COACHING
Ideal for anyone seeking to navigate and respond to family conflicts in a confident, kind and effective way, in integrity with personal values and the courage to be vulnerable, learn and grow.
“Our ‘opponents’ are our co-creators, for they have something to give which we have not. The basis of all cooperative activity is integrated diversity… What people often mean by getting rid of conflict is getting rid of diversity, and it is of the utmost importance that these should not be considered the same.”
Mary Parker Follett
From the very moment we are conceived, we are exposed to conflict. It permeates our human reality in so many levels and takes so many different forms. Conflicts are at the core of most our suffering and directly impact our quality of life. Yet, learning to navigate and respond to conflict in constructive ways is not consciously part of our education or upbringing. We can stay in conflict for a minute or for a life time.
Conflicts can superficially scratch or permanently destroy a relationship. Our limited conflict skills will usually lead us to either avoid them or overreact to them. We will take turns in dominating others and subjugating ourselves to their will, in a constant win-loose competition, where everyone inevitably looses.
I have personally oscillated between conflict avoidant and combative all my life and was left feeling incompetent and deeply unsatisfied in both approaches, until finally discovering and learning the wonders of conflict resolution, non-violent communication and peace building.
Through conflict coaching, you will learn about the nature of conflicts, what feeds them and keep them going, how to identify the unspoken needs and confessions behind accusations and how to connect with those we are in conflict with through the noise of destructive emotions and behaviours.
outcomes
LOWER STRESS AND HIGHER EMOTIONAL WELLBEING
STEP OUT of the need to please or to dominate and step into real mutual respect
ABILITY TO LISTEN
to what is behind words and behaviours
MORE POSITIVE OUTLOOK AND FAITH IN THE FUTURE
COMMUNICATION SKILLS
that prepare you to be in conflict and resolve them in ways that will not damage your relationships
Relationship repair and forgiveness
Tighter bonds and long lasting relationships
GREATER SELF-ESTEEM
and sense of dignity during and after conflict
Agression reduction
What you should expect
- You will NOT be judged or blamed for any of your thoughts, emotions or behaviours;
- You will NOT be given advise or told what to do but supported to make informed and responsible decisions;
- Your conflicts may be solved in ways that are different from what you may have originally thought;
- You will be held with heartfelt love and compassion;
- You will be deeply heard in all your emotions, especially in the most negative ones, and invited to identify the needs behind them;
- You will be invited to self-reflect and take responsibility for ways you may be contributing to create and/or perpetuate conflicts;
- You will be actively involved in designing your relational goals and be supported to move towards such goals through very actionable steps;
- You will be encouraged and supported to revisit and challenge your personal beliefs and behavioural patterns;
- You will have unlimited chances to make mistakes and will be invited to embrace each one of them as opportunities to learn something new;
- You will have plenty of space to talk about problems but will be encouraged to focus most of your energy on solutions;
- You will be supported to create a very individualized action plan and be held accountable to implement it through ongoing progress follow up and support;
- You will be invited to engage in meaningful self-reflection and inner work during your coaching sessions and active practice in-between sessions;
- Changes happen as a result of a consistent cycle of practice, reflection and more practice;
- Behavioural patterns and relationship dynamics take time to change, which can be shorter or longer based on one’s consistency, determination, ability to think critically and act responsibly; and
- You will have space to offer honest feedback and express your needs at any given moment.